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Stop Hiding and Dare to Fly

  • Mar 18
  • 2 min read

I’ve always felt a little different.


For a long time, I was still able to blend in—especially with family and friends. But as I got older, that started to change. My life was moving in a different direction, even before I fully understood what that direction was.


I just knew I didn’t fit the same way anymore.


For years, I felt lost. Like I was circling something but couldn’t quite land on it. And then eventually, things started to come into focus. I began to understand myself in a way I hadn’t before, including my intuitive abilities.


And in a strange way, I finally felt at home in myself.


But that didn’t make things easier.


The people around me didn’t really understand this part of me. Some didn’t believe it at all. And I found myself in this quiet tension between being accepted… and being honest about who I was.


At some point, I realized I couldn’t have both—not in the way I was trying to.


So I made a choice to be more honest with myself, even though I knew it might cost me.


And it did.


That was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through. Losing people, or feeling like I was losing them, just for being who I was becoming.


For a while, I went back into hiding.


Not completely—but enough that I could retreat if things felt uncomfortable. I would show parts of myself, then pull back again. It felt safer that way.

But it also felt… exhausting.


What I eventually came to understand is that you can’t fully be yourself while constantly trying to make other people comfortable with it.


At some point, something has to give.


And for me, it became less about proving anything to anyone, and more about quietly standing in who I am.


Not perfectly. Not all at once. But more honestly than before.


I also had to accept something I didn’t want to at first—that not everyone would come with me.


That doesn’t make them bad people. It just means we’re on different paths.


And over time, something else started to happen.


The more I allowed myself to be who I am, the more the right people and experiences started to show up. Not all at once. But enough to remind me I wasn’t actually alone.


Stepping into yourself can feel scary. It can feel uncertain. And sometimes it does mean standing on your own for a while.


But I don’t think we’re meant to hide who we are just to fit into something that was never right for us.


If anything, I think we’re meant to grow into it… at our own pace.


And maybe that’s what this is really about.


Not forcing yourself out into the open… but slowly letting yourself be seen.

JC


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